Long distance relationships have a higher failure rate than relationships with people who live within reach of each other. There are several logical reasons for their failure. One of the biggest obstacles to long distance love is the lack of closeness and intimacy that bonds two people to each other. It’s not that love cannot survive unless the two people are in each other’s faces 24/7, but seeing each other enough to remember what the other looks like is a good idea.
Distance in a relationship is not a friend to the relationship; that goes for actual distance and emotional distance as well. People can live hundreds of miles apart and still feel an acute connection to each other. Then there are those people who live in the same house and have no idea how to reach each other.
Relationships don’t start out with the people in them feeling no connection. There is usually some kind of spark or force that draws them in to each other and they build on that until they can feel each other no matter how far apart they are. If the bond between two people is fed and nurtured, it can survive quite a while even with miles separating their physical bodies. But even the closest of couples will lose some of the vibrancy of their connection if they do not have the opportunity to come together and be in each other’s presence.
If you are not in a long distance relationship, but feel like you are not in the same time zone as your significant other, there is a chance that you have lost your connection to each other. It is an especially empty feeling, to have the person you love right next to you, where you can see them, but not be able to feel them. It’s worse than having hundreds of miles between you.
There are many things that cause there to be distance between you and the person you love. One of them is lack of communication. When you stop talking to each other, you stop sharing. Sharing information about what is going on in your world and how you feel about it keeps the other person plugged into you, even if you are not feeling receptive to them right at that moment. Making time to just be in the same space quietly with each other will keep the intimate blanket that surrounds you, secure. Sharing intimate thoughts and just being intimate with each other is another way to make sure the distance between the two of you stays indelible.
If you have let your relationship become emotionally long distance there are ways to pull it in close again but it will take some dedication and patience. No matter how far apart you’ve grown, it will take both of you being willing to do a little meeting each other half way, to make it work. It only takes one you to initiate the effort, but both of you have to want it, or at least be willing to try.
The best way to make sure you stay local and connected to the one you love is to make sure to always keep them in your sight, mentally and emotionally, and always be in theirs.