Whether you are infatuated or in love, you always know when you are at the delicate point in your relationship that it would break you, if they broke up with you. It’s not that you are a weak or needy person. It’s just that you are at that level of intimacy that requires your whole being to be completely open to this person you are with, for you to be able to fully experience what you mean to each other. This is the place in love that poems are written about. The place where the person you love has the power to smash your heart into a million pieces, but you trust them not to. And if they did, there would be nothing you could do about it.
Being so intimately connected with another person is intoxicating and exciting, but the rush and the intensity fades a little as time goes on. It turns into a more grounded secure kind of love, or it fades away completely. Just as you are acutely aware of how you could be smashed by the person you love, you are equally, if not more, aware of when you no longer need them or want them in the same way anymore.
Not feeling close to someone who once had your heart and owned your happiness is a little weird at first. Something about it feels wrong and it makes you feel off. But there is just no denying, when feelings have changed, there is usually nothing anybody can do to get them back to what they were.
If the relationship was unhealthy or just not making you happy anymore, being free of your feelings for the other person makes it possible for you to walk away from something that was no longer any good for you.
If the relationship was not bad, but had no possibility of going anywhere, it might be a little more difficult to walk away from it, especially if they try and make you feel guilty. You may even still have love for them, but not be in love with them. Nothing changes the fact that they are still someone that you once cared a great deal for, so it will be hard even in the best of situations.
No matter what shape or condition the relationship is in, the memory of how you once felt, about the person you were with, will never do the actual feelings justice. There is no way to hold on to, or relive something that has slipped away. With or without you, the feelings will become more of a distant memory with each passing day. Even if you did stay with the person, you would be reminded daily of how much things have changed between you. It would be more painful to stay in that situation than it would be if you just left.
One thing is for certain, once you’re over it, you’re so over it.