Almost everybody wants to be liked. And everybody likes to think that they are easy to like and love, and easy to get along with. But what happens when it seems like you are always fighting with someone and it’s always their fault? You know it seems impossible for everybody you know to have the same flaws and to do the same annoying things that constantly land you in a fight. But still, you just don’t see how it could be you. Living life in peace is the theme of your life, so it can’t be you.
When you are ready to face the unbelievable facts about your personality, you will have taken the first step on the road to behaving like you really want to in the relationships that mean the most to you. You are now realizing that the way you act and carry yourself will directly affect the way you are seen and treated. This behavior also includes your non verbal communication; your body language. It also sets the course for future encounters, and makes a big difference in where your relationships end up.
Most people who send out negative vibes or have unsavory energy floating around them are not aware of it. When they encourage negativity from other people, without even knowing they are the cause, it can cause them to become confused about the other person’s intentions and they may take on the role of victim, which only adds to their lack of appeal.
If this describes you, don’t feel like your fate is written to include you as the lonely hoarder eating frozen food alone every night. Whatever is causing this off putting character trait in you, know that it can be fished out and tossed back with just a little soul searching.
Some of the most common reasons that people will get in the bad attitude rut include:
1. A job that requires them to be exposed to difficult situations every day, but not be allowed to show any empathy or emotion. They have to be good at turning their feelings on and off like a light switch. After a while, all the back and forth just gets too emotionally draining and they just opt, consciously or subconsciously, to stay off.
2. A very traumatic breakup or the loss of somebody very close could have made emotional survival dependent on being able to put up very high walls all around them.
3. Having had to struggle through life not having anybody to depend on for help or support could also cause a person to come off as being hard or unfriendly.
4. Fear of losing control can keep people from being too open with others. They figure that if they keep a lot of their lives hidden, they will never be in a position to be at the mercy of somebody else’s moods or whims.
Any one of these things can cause a person to be branded as difficult to get along with. Usually by the time a person starts to notice a pattern of failed relationships, the lack of close friendships, and alienated family members, it’s been going on for years. If you really desire a change, make the decision to walk away from whatever it is that makes you feel the need to protect yourself, even if it’s a bad memory. You will then be seen for who you really are.