Planning for your big day can not only be exhausting and stressful but it can lead to other factor of emotional turmoil. Some couples try to fool themselves into thinking that when they are feeling bad, nervous, doubtful, and stressed about their wedding that they are being a bad partner.
The truth lies in the fact that the stress is normal. There is such a thing as wedding anxiety. This high-volume stress from all of the factors can reek havoc on one’s feelings and mentality. Both the bride and groom can be affected. This stems from everything involved. From relatives not being fully supportive, upset attendants, flower arrangements getting messy, it all adds up to stress.
Couples need to also be aware of post-marriage stress. This involves the stress and emotional sadness that may become present after the wedding has come and gone. It can affect the honeymoon and the short period during the adjustment. Don’t be embarrassed and clam up with your partner. You will both need to know that this is absolutely normal and the whole point that will help dismiss this stress is to be honest with each other and talk about it. Get it off of your chest and do not let the others opinion dampen your emotions because you both have the right to the way you feel.
There is a difference between cold-feet and a just-plain-gut-feeling. If there are unchangeable issues in the partnership that will affect your future, or communication is not open and you do not feel prepared, do not ignore these feelings. Postponing the event is better than jumping into a situation that will be costly for your wallet and your emotional state.
Your best bet to combat the stress and anxiety of marriage is to realize it is going to happen. Everyone deals with it on many levels. You and your partner need to address it before the wedding day arrives. Discuss the possible stressors and anticipate them. Instead of ignoring the possibilities, know that they may happen, and prepare to deal with them. If there were such a thing as a perfect marriage then there wouldn’t be such a thing as divorce. Your job is be in love and communicate your feelings. Put your focus on what truly matters. Save yourself the trouble and hire a wedding planner, then focus on your partner, and be prepared with open arms.