Words spoken in anger can do devastating damage to a relationship. Once something is said out loud, it cannot be taken back. That is why it so important to think before you speak and to make sure that what you say will reflect how you truly feel about the person you are speaking to. Just because you are angry at somebody doesn’t mean you no longer love them, so there should be no reason to act like it does.
Just as devastating as those things we can say to hurt the people we love, are the things we don’t say to them that hurt them just as much. People want to be told how important they are. They want to know how much they are loved and needed. It is something that needs to be said on a regular basis.
Knowing what not to say to people you love can save you and them a lot of pain. It can even save your relationship. And saying the things that you know the other person needs to hear can mean the same thing.
After an intense argument people tend to get back to their usual routines. It’s impossible not to. Life doesn’t stand still until you kiss and make up. But things are not always as they were just because the fighting is over. If the person at fault for the argument has not said they are sorry things could be far from over, or it could be the beginning of the end.
Learning the art of thinking before you speak can save you a lot of heartache, but people have come to expect nothing less. Making the effort to say the things that need to be said is something that seems a little harder to do, but so worth it.
Saying you’re sorry when you have hurt someone means everything, but only if you mean it. If saying sorry starts to become your way of being excused for the things you continually do, it becomes meaningless. Telling somebody how much they mean to you, and backing up those words with actions builds trust in your relationship that makes a good foundation. Telling your partner where you were and what you were doing, without being asked, shows consideration for their feelings and makes them feel like they have nothing to worry about. Being very clear about your intentions, in the relationship you are in, allows both of you the freedom to make the decision to stay in it, or leave it, and prevents you, and them, from feeling like you were tricked into something you didn’t want.
Basically having the courtesy to speak up will make your words worth their weight in gold.