This man writes poems and has lots of women friends. But what is really special about him is that he isn’t afraid to cry. He has no problem showing emotion. He virtually wears his heart on his sleeve, and if his heart is broken, he is just happy to have loved and lost, than to not have loved at all. This may sound like the man of your dreams, but he is anything but, just ask his last girlfriend.
If you ask his last girlfriend why she dumped him, no matter what reason she gives, chances are, it won’t be good enough. There are just too many assholes out there to be throwing away good men like yesterday’s garbage. But be careful, because it’s too easy to get lost in the romantic idea of a guy who really seems to feel everything so incredibly deeply. It’s too easy to forget that there are two sides to every story. And the side you are getting is coming from a big strong guy who has a tear in his eye.
This is a classic example of the guy who knows how to get women to sympathize with him and anything else he wants them to do. He is the eternal victim in every break up. Even though he boasts about how great his previous girlfriend was, and how none of what happened between them was her fault, which by the way, makes him look even sweeter, she dumped him. Yet for all his ex girlfriend’s perfection, she was still capable of dumping such a great catch. This has some women wondering exactly what the catch is. But in the end they conclude that it had to be that the woman was just crazy or cheating.
For all his dramatics this type of guy seems pretty harmless, a little pathetic, but harmless. But he is not. He is a wolf in sheep’s clothing. He has managed to paint the picture of himself as being an absolutely gentle soul that could never imagine hurting a woman, at least not intentionally. And if he does, it tears him up so badly, that there is no punishment worse than how bad he feels already. His own conscious will do more to make him feel bad enough.
The real deal on this gentle-man is that he is usually very insecure and it drives him to make the women he is with, miserable. They try reassuring him and doing whatever they can to make him feel secure in the knowledge that he really is the only one. Just to have him require more and more of that reassurance as time goes on. The relationship becomes very unhealthy pretty quickly and the only time he feels good is after his daily pep talk. This becomes exhausting to the woman he is with, but they are torn because he had them believing that he was this great catch. By the time they walk away from him he has displayed more jealousy and passive aggressive behavior than any woman could stand, no matter how great she is.
The women who get involved with a man like this are usually the ones who get hurt the most because they blame themselves for not being able to stick it out. But when it comes to a man like this, it’s better to let him cry on somebody else’s shoulder.