Most couples come to points in their relationship that either makes them or breaks them. One of the big ones is when it’s time to take things to the next level, or just let it go. In the beginning, the relationship coasts along on its own steam. And in the beginning there is enough heat to cause a lot of steam. But the cruise control that takes both people on the wild ride of love, only goes so far, and then it comes down to it being all them. Everything that happens after the honeymoon phase wears off is up to the couple and how much they really want to stay together. This is a make it, or break it time for the relationship, and both people know it can go either way. This can be a rough time in the relationship. They may even decide to separate from each other thinking that they would rather not stay together, only to find themselves back together and stronger than ever.
As a couple grows closer and navigate together through the rough patches on the road to bliss, they start to get into a rhythm that gets very comfortable. Unfortunately, a person who is comfortable sometimes takes that to the next level as well, and then they fall into a rut.
A single person who falls into a rut will stay in it until they’ve had enough. Something or someone will come along and inspire them to pull out of it, and all is right with the world again. When it’s somebody’s girlfriend or boyfriend who falls into the pit of complacency, it is a whole different ball game. They not only take themselves, but their significant other to places they probably don’t want to go to.
What being in a rut actually means is following some routine of behaviors and habits in repetition, without any variation, for long periods of time. An individual who gets too comfortable in their relationship stops doing things to impress and dazzle the other person. To the other person it can come across as no longer being appreciated. It can also look like maybe the other person just wants out of the relationship, but is not able to come out and say it. But one thing is for sure, ruts are boring and they break up relationships that have forever potential written all over them.
Being bored for too long drives people to do things that they really don’t want to do. It drives them to do whatever it takes to make them feel alive again. Allowing boredom to thrive in your relationship makes your relationship look bad. It makes all the good things hard to see and feel.
Every once in a while it’s nice to just go with the flow and not make waves. But there has to be a good balance or else the comforting flow of routine could take your relationship out to sea where it will drift into oblivion.