Are you soon expecting a marriage proposal, or have you recently accepted one? Perhaps you are soon going to give a proposal, or have already had a proposal accepted by your future spouse. In any case, if wedding bells are ringing in your ears then you will possibly be in a process of making your final preparations for honestly committing to a single person for the rest of your life. This is a pretty major commitment and it should be truly a considerate and caring process of nurturing honesty so that you can truly and strongly ensure the health and longevity of your relationship.
One thing that you may and likely should be considering is if it is possible that there may be anything about your personal life prior to your relationship you should possibly not reveal in too much depth to your future spouse. While it seems obvious to just reveal everything in as much detail as possible, it is actually good in many ways for their happiness and the happiness of your relationship to help their mental image of you remain as wonderful as possible as long as your past is now truly just the past. If you had prior relationships that they may not want to or need to know about and that are now no longer applicable to you as a person, and won’t arise as any kind of issue in your future, then there is truly no point in telling your future spouse about your prior relationships unless you know it would be devastating to your relationship if they found out later on. If it is only something that would potentially detract from their happiness, yet they would stay with you anyway, then why is it necessary to say anything at all?
Let’s look at some of the pros and cons to telling it all about your past relationships.
Pros
1. They will know everything you may preferably be hiding and you will never have a feeling of holding back any information from them ever. This is great, but do remind yourself that you won’t likely be recounting every second of every day to them so why pick out negative things to tell that do not matter?
2. Complete commitment and trust. This is a feeling of complete commitment and trust which is hard to compare. Do remember you can still have this feeling if you don’t go out of your way to mention anything you would still tell your spouse if asked. Only if you withhold information which would possibly lead to dissolution of your relationship will you be risking this trust.
Cons
1. Their image of you may change unnecessarily. This may compromise their happiness and the happiness of your relationship in ways that are possibly unnecessary. Your spouse thinking of your past relationships while making love to you, for example, is not something you likely want to happen at all.
2. If you have been rather adventurous sensually and your partner has not, then it may make them feel inadequate and could potentially even lead to infidelity on their part if they then feel the need to explore a bit more. This is obviously a possibility of presenting an unnecessary distraction in your relationship.
Unless asked, it really isn’t necessary to tell it all as you could possibly do more harm than good.