The girl’s got it all. She has a good job. She lives in a beautiful home that she loves. And she is blessed with goddess like beauty. But what she can’t seem to hold on to, is a man. It’s not that she doesn’t want one. She does, and very much so. It almost seems like a cruel twist of fate that she could have so many great things going on in her life, and have nobody to share them with.
Many women experience this dilemma of not being able to establish a satisfying relationship with a man. To some extent, this loneliness is caused by the walls that they put up around themselves. They may not even be aware that they’ve put up the walls at all. To them it is simply a matter of only spending time with people who they estimate will be a good match for them. They become so careful trying not to get caught up in dead end relationships that they end up unintentionally sequestering themselves. It eventually gets to the point that they are at a complete loss when it comes to meeting new people and going on to have relationships with the people they meet.
Anytime a person feels deprived of something that they need or want, they become fixated on having it. This can make a girl look and act desperate. In reality there is really no reason she should be desperate. She has everything she needs to make a man happy, but she doesn’t believe it. This makes men wonder why, and it’s usually a big reason they won’t pursue her even if they are interested in her. This becomes a vicious cycle of rejection and self doubt that she has to figure out how to break free from if she wants to ever have a chance at being happily spoken for.
It may be tempting to let things ride the way they are until they somehow change themselves. Or until prince charming arrives on his horse to save the day. It is easier for sure. But by doing so, you are robbing yourself of a lot of pleasure and satisfaction. The first thing to do is to bring down those walls. Make the decision to just go for it; even if means going out with somebody who you know is probably not mister right. If he makes you laugh and feel good, there is nothing wrong with simply enjoying him and letting him enjoy you. It will definitely lead to other things, just maybe not with him.
Not having a man is something that can change in the blink of an eye. All it takes is for you to decide to take stock of all the things you have already accomplished, and all the many irresistible quirks that you have, that make you who you are. It even helps to think back to a time when meeting new people was effortless and you didn’t think about it, you just did it. Once a man knows that you can see all the great things about you, that he can, wild horses can’t keep him away.