Sometimes the process of luring a guy into marriage can seem daunting and overwhelming. It doesn’t have to be. Here are a few rules to follow that will help take the pressure off immensely:
1. Give him his space. One way or another, a guy is going to get the space and “personal time” or “guy time” that he needs. It can either be because you are understanding and supportive by providing him with this space, or it can be because he dumps you in order to get away from you. Your choice.
2. Don’t criticize those who were there before you. Whether it’s an old friend of his, a family member… whomever: never criticize anyone in a man’s life who was around before he met you. He’ll take it very personally, even if deep down inside he agrees with your criticism.
3. No jealousy. I know that sometimes it’s unbelievably tough not to let jealousy make its way into a relationship, but it’s important that you try your hardest not to. Jealousy is ultimately a big turn-off for both members of a relationship. Regarding the past, especially, don’t let jealousy enter the relationship. Let the past be the past. There’s no need to get jealous about what he was doing before he met you.
4. No fits over small stuff. Guys want to marry women that are low-maintenance. After all, they’ll be spending the rest of their life with you. The last thing they want is to be with someone who requires the workload of an additional part-time job just to keep happy. Let the little things slide. Don’t ride his back about every small little thing that isn’t going perfectly. If he forgets to call once or goes to a strip club for his buddy’s bachelor party, don’t lose your mind over it. In the grand scheme of things, it’s really not a big deal, trust me.
5. Let it be his idea. Sometimes people could think that something sounds like a great idea, but if someone else brings up the idea, they’re going to be against it. It’s silly, I know. But if you really want something (coughcoughmarriagecough), let him be the one to come up with the idea. People always love “their” ideas and are usually critical of others’ ideas.
6. Fulfill him sexually. One of the major fears for a guy regarding marriage is that they’ll make a lifetime commitment to someone who they hardly ever get to have sex with. Ensure him that this is not a problem and always place a high priority on sex. Even if you’d just assume rarely do it, he probably wants to do it several times a week.
7. Only have eyes for him. In a way, marriage is a big purchase for a guy to make. They will be much, much less likely to do it if they think the girl they’re marrying would get with some other guy in a flash. Be careful how flirty you are with his friends and how much you talk about other men. He won’t feel in control, which will make him unhappy, which will make him not want to marry you.