Finally, after three or four, break up to make up, episodes you have severed the chord that bound you to your ex, and now you know what it’s like to hurt so good, while you feel so bad.
At this very early point in your, for sure and final breakup, you probably have no shortage of inspired, but unasked for, reasons why you should call this whole thing off, and just go back to the rat bastard. But none of those reasons are healthy or wise, and if you study them long enough you will find that they are cheap disguises designed by your mind, to get you out of the immediate pain and discomfort you are experiencing.
Speaking of time, it seems that now that you have nobody to go out and eat with, stay in and watch movies with, or just cuddle on the couch with, you have a lot of time on your hands. Time seems to be your enemy, but that’s just another paranoid thought, one of many, that come with a break up. In actuality, time is really on your side, and come to think of it, your time is now your own, and that is one of the several reasons why you should embrace your new status of free.
As counterproductive as spending time reminiscing on your ex, and the relationship that you had with him seems, it is not, and it can prove to be very helpful in reeling in your perspective on the situation.
The best reason to stay broken up with somebody, who made you unhappy enough for you to plunge into the cold world of the broken up, is that the pain you are feeling, now that you are apart, has an estimated end to it. The pain, misery, and general unhappiness you felt while you were in the relationship could be nothing but terminal. As long as you stayed together, things were not going to change. You know that, because you waited years and did everything short of giving them a lobotomy, and it did absolutely nothing. By sticking around for as long as you did, you unwittingly, signed an emotional contract with your ex. This gave them exclusive rights to your happiness and unhappiness. And they seemed to be vested in making your life a living hell.
Another good reason not to go back to an unhappy person, who was very generous with their negativity, is that it started rubbing off on you. You got so used to being surrounded by the dysfunction that had become your reality that it started showing on your face. There is no other explanation for the look you saw on your face every time you looked in the mirror. Even when you couldn’t see yourself, you could feel the frown on your lips and dullness in your expression. And you know if you could feel it, others could definitely see it.
Amazingly, the reason you should be celebrating your break up, and not mourning it, is not always as obvious as it seems it should be. All the time you spent in the suffocating stench of your dead relationship, was time you could have had to explore a new, more alive romance.
Staying broken up is not always easy at first, but it gets easier by the day, once you stop your resuscitation efforts, pronounce it dead, and finally, just bury it.