Are you just beginning to plan for your wedding and still trying to figure out just the kinds of things what will be involved in your long term relationship together with your chosen spouse? If you are considering committing to a marriage and wondering what married life really involves then you will likely want to get a better idea of all of the roles that you are actually going to play in your relationship with your spouse. There are some primary roles which will almost certainly be necessary at some point in your relationship and you will want to be sure you are ready and willing and understand the roles you will be fulfilling so that if an opportunity arises you will be prepared to act accordingly. Fulfilling the roles in the order of their actual importance is of utmost consideration as it will be assuring the happiest and healthiest long term relationship possible.
Here is a list of the primary roles in the order of their real importance and their order of priority in your marriage vows. You will likely want to review them thoroughly and really look at how willing you are to fulfill the roles for your chosen spouse and also how well prepared you really feel your potential spouse is to fulfill all of the roles listed for you.
1. Best Friend
First and foremost you will need to be best friends with one another to ensure a happy and healthy relationship that is most suitable for long term sustainability. You can still, of course, have your other friends in life but your marriage should be your deepest friendship. If only lovers then how can you expect to maintain the relationship for years and years?
2. Lover
You must obviously be willing to fulfill your role as a lover also to be sure your partner will feel romantically and sensually fulfilled. This extends far beyond the sensual, but the sensual is an expression of your true devotion and trust. You should, in all honesty, be willing to do anything sensually for your partner as an expression of your love and trust. Beyond the sensual is a more spiritual bond that is felt deep inside the chest. There is a bond between the hearts of true love that is like no other feeling in the human universe, so be sure you feel this and respect it truly!
3. Parent
This means loving one another and taking care of one another as a good parent would in their moments of need. If you or your loved one ever need tender loving care, and it’s rather inevitable at some point that such a situation will likely happen, then you need to be prepared to attend to them as though you are a loving parent.
You may also want to have a discussion with your future spouse about the roles to make sure they really understand what is involved in a happy and healthy relationship. Make sure to do it in the most loving and gentle way as to not make your partner feel that you are analyzing them or already don’t feel that they are up to the task. Perhaps an “Hey, this is interesting. How do you feel about this?” approach may be the best way to illicit a non-threatened response.