All your life people tell you not to settle for anything but the best. You must have the best of everything because you are worth it. But as you sit alone, in your bedroom, on Friday night, watching TV and eating over-salted popcorn, you wonder where all those people are, and if they only accepted the best in their lives.
It seems like such an easy thing to say. And, why wouldn’t it be? It makes perfect sense to expect the best, want the best, and only go after the best. But you wonder if that is a realistic thing to be thinking. You may also wonder who coined the concept of settling, when it refers to people. It’s obvious that you would not want to meet a person who was cruel, or dishonest, but forgetting what you don’t want, what makes one person better than another?
It seems highly doubtful that anyone and everyone who ever told you not to settle for anything but the best followed their own advice. If they all did, there wouldn’t be so many dysfunctional relationships everywhere you look.
Unfortunately, even though you are now old enough, or capable enough to have thought this through, you find that you are programmed to feel like a failure, if you settle. And settling means being with a man who does not have a check mark next everything you have on your man wish list. It seems so unfair that you were essentially, brainwashed into being alone.
Being with somebody, who does not meet some pre-designed list of attributes, is not settling at all. What is desirable to one person can actually be repulsive to another, and vice versa. You should never feel pressured to choose who you get to know, based on what others around you think. For one thing, you never really know what another person’s thinking, or what their motives are. Depending on who they are to you, they really could have your best interest at heart. But they could also be someone who is jealous of you, or just someone who regrets their decisions, and wants a second chance, through you. You have to learn to trust yourself, and rely on your instincts to lead you happiness.
Any person who is kind, considerate, and makes you feel like the special creation you are, deserves the chance to win your heart. Sometimes, even when a man has everything to offer, he shares very little of it. Just because he has everything you ever wanted in a man, doesn’t mean he will give it to you. This includes his time, affection, and love. Be sure to pass up people who claim to be perfect, because they have just lied to you.