If you only had a dime for every time you thought about leaving him, you know you would be rich. And if you could only find someone who could tell you why you don’t just leave him, you would give them every dime you had.
Usually, by the time you get to this point in your relationship; the point that takes you to the end of your rope. You are not the only one wondering why you haven’t done some kind of intervention to save yourself. If you think that your man is unaware of how he is treating you, think again. He knows exactly what he is doing when he is making your life unbearable; much the same way he knew just what he was doing when he won your heart.
It might cross your mind to try and figure out why the man you love would want to treat you so bad; or you could just do something to take yourself out of the unhappy situation. Everybody gets grouchy and has bad days, and even bad weeks. But there is generally no good reason for another person badly.
If you have the patience to ask your man why he is being such a jerk, be prepared to hear a bunch of excuses. And be prepared to feel even more insulted than before you asked. Once you are satisfied that there is nothing you can do to stop his childish, passive aggressive acting out; it’s time to make some serious changes. As hard as it is to be the one making changes and shaking things up, your only other option is to go on being unhappy. Whatever you decide to do, know that it will have to be drastic and it will probably make you come across as the bad guy. But that really shouldn’t matter because the two people who need to know what’s going on, do.
When you have had enough of being taken for granted and having everything else in the world put before you, it’s time to get ready to walk out. So you are totally confident that you are getting your point across and leaving no room for misinterpretation, talk about the things that are bothering you, not in an argument format, but a calm, reasonable discussion format. Once you have your key complaints on the table, be clear about what needs to happen to remedy the situation; and what action you will take if it doesn’t get to that point.
If you are not taken seriously, you need to walk away. For you to be able to do that, you need to be ready to do that. But ready or not, you need to do it if he disregards your feelings. And be ready for it to be an extremely difficult thing to do. But if your man loves you and has any intention of doing whatever it takes to make you, and keep you happy, it will be the wakeup call he needed.
If he lets you walk away and does nothing to show you that he wants to correct his behavior, you will know you made the right choice and it won’t be long before you start feeling better than you have in a long time. That, in itself, makes your hand, the winning hand.