Relationships are fueled by passion and emotion, so it makes sense that you would be taking a chance of losing something just by being in one. Just like anything else you decide to do, you probably weigh out the pros and cons before going full steam ahead into a new romance. Since your heart likes to take control of the whole romance situation, there is a very small window of opportunity for your mind to jump in and decide if being with this new person is a chance worth taking.
As you practically sit on the sidelines and watch while you fall head over heels in love, somewhere in the back of your mind you are registering little, and big, signs about whether this is a good idea, or a bad idea. It’s not like you will actually pay attention to what those signs are telling you, but you are receiving them anyway. By the time you are almost fully entrenched in the throes of your new romance you pretty much know the odds of how it will end.
There are certain determining factors that can almost predict the ending of some relationships, way before they happen. But the things that make you and your partner a mismatch are not always the obvious things that you would think to look for. It’s easy to get so stuck on the list of qualities that you are looking for in another person, that you can completely miss even bigger things that can make your relationship likely to be doomed before it even really gets going.
Instead of trying to hook up with a man who is over six feet tall because you love tall guys, try looking into your future and ask yourself if you can see yourself being happy with him even though he is a pessimist. Even if he tries to keep it from you and makes somewhat of an effort to keep negative comments to himself, you know that being around him sometimes brings you down. As much as you would love to believe that you can show him how to love life and be positive, you know what’s more likely to happen is that his negative attitude will rub off on you; at least temporarily.
The amount of time that you feel is adequate to spend on partying may not match that of the successful guy you just met, but that can be worked out later; right? Actually what will happen later is that you will find yourself spending a lot of time wondering where he is and what he’s doing. He may have the correct number dollars in his bank account, but if you can’t, or don’t care to keep up with his party hardy life style, a broke man who gets you will be a better catch.
If you are not on the same exact page when it comes to things you do every day, not just the big things, you are putting yourself in a risky relationship. This means that the relationship you are about to give your heart and soul to is most likely going to take away your happiness and break your heart.