The way a couple spends their together time changes in some ways when they don’t have as much cash to spend. Some couples will rent movies and watch them at home instead of going out to the movies. Staying at home for movie night cuts the cost of the movie in half, and the snacks are free. They also take home vacations, have pool parties, and pot lucks, instead of the more expensive alternatives. These changes impact some relationships in a surprisingly positive way. The new routine and different locations give people the feeling of having a new relationship. It also gives the couple a bunch of new memories to look back on.
One thing that nobody expects to happen when belts are tightened is cut backs in their romance. They don’t expect to see less of each other. As long as both people are willing to compromise on going out, there should be no reason for them not see each other.
But as ridiculous as this idea seems, some women are seeing less and less of their boyfriends, and the excuses they are being given are unbelievable.
A lot of men are actually claiming that they just don’t have the gas to drive to their girlfriend’s house. This may seem like a fairly believable excuse for once in a while, but really, it’s still a stretch. But these men are using this excuse and others like it, on a weekly basis. These couples are going weeks without seeing each other and it’s really starting to erode even the strongest of bonds.
As the weeks turn into months of only a handful of days and nights together, the women in these relationships start to wonder if something a lot deeper is going on. They start to lose confidence in themselves and in their relationship. They even start questioning their boyfriend’s love for them.
These women are completely justified in listening to their gut instinct, because there is something definitely not right about this situation, but they may be light years away in what they’re thinking is happening.
Their man’s withdrawal is not as necessary as they are making it seem, but it does have everything to do with money. A lot of a man’s self worth comes from his ability to make money. When that is compromised in any way, it profoundly affects the way he sees himself, and he usually imagines that his girlfriend is thinking the same thing. Even the most focused effort on the woman’s part to reassure and comfort her man will be lost on him. He may feel a little better while she is there with him, but the minute they are apart again, his feelings of doubt and fear haunt him. The best thing a woman can do in this situation is stay calm, stay close, and wait it out. She just needs to make sure to keep him close in every way he lets her.