Internet dating sites and dating services are becoming a multibillion dollar industry. They are quickly becoming as much the powerful draw for a consumer’s hard earned cash, as the diet industry.
The undeniable truth of the matter is that people want to be with someone; they want to be in a relationship. And they are becoming more willing to find them in any way that is available to them.
Now that are so many different ways to meet a potential mate, how to meet someone is not much of an issue anymore. What seems to be the issue now is weeding out potential relationship disasters and getting rid of them before they have the chance to take root.
For some people, having a list of things that will put a person on a no date list, is considered picky and snobby. They theorize that nobody is perfect and we should be more tolerant of each other, flaws and all, especially when we are single and looking to change our status.
This is a where the line in the dating sand is drawn. The people on the other side are determined not to settle, or lower their standards just to be with somebody. They firmly believe that by being willing to settle for anything less than what they feel they deserve, they are admitting to being desperate.
Desperation is exactly what everybody seems to be so afraid of, but by letting the fear of it dictate what they do; they have actually surrendered to it.
Being single is not a bad or negative thing. The only time it seems that way is when it’s not what we want. Our reasons for wanting a partner may influence whether or not we stick to our list of must haves, or completely abandon it.
When loneliness is what drives us to actively look for a mate, we may be more likely to be less judgmental and picky. This is good if we can keep our perspective on where we expect the relationship to go, and how much we are willing to compromise. But it can end up in another dead end relationship if we project what we want it to be on to it, and ignore what it really is.
If a long term companionship or marriage is what we are looking for, it is best to only date people who truly have a lifestyle compatible with ours. Diversity is exciting and stimulating, but it does not cohabitate easily with the goal of having a relationship defined by longevity and stability.
When a person simply has no other aspiration for a relationship other than to just have a warm body to sleep next to, and an extra person to eat meals with, they will find that a lot of their preconceived notions about what it would take to make them happy fall away. But they should stay mindful of the fact that having the bare minimum in a relationship has been known to spark thoughts of wanting more. And when that happens, not just anybody will do.