For some, perhaps even most guys, you don’t need to do anything to get him to want to get married. Many people go through their whole lives just doing what they think they’re supposed to do be doing. Lucky for the marriage-minded among you, marriage is still “what you’re supposed to be doing” in our society. However, more and more guys are starting to question marriage. Information like nomarriage.com didn’t exist twenty years ago, and now it’s wildly popular among young males.
So let’s say you have a guy that is sort of “on the fritz” about how he feels about marriage. Maybe he hangs around a few anti-marriage friends in which you are engaged in an epic battle for his soul. Here’s how you can win that battle:
Be Cool Around His Friends
This is of the utmost importance. Even if a guy doesn’t particularly like his friends, he’ll still put a lot of stock in their opinions. Always put yourself in the backseat when his friends are around. They’ll give him the green light for marriage if they think you’re “just one of the guys”. Even if that’s not true, it’s definitely worth it to put on an act when you’re around them.
Incite the Right Emotions
One of the major values for marrying a girl from a guy’s perspective is the companionship. Sex is a little overrated as a marriage element. It’s not hard for a guy to “get laid”. But it is hard to be intimate with someone you really care about and relate to. Be his friend and make it so that he feels lonely without you. It’s also okay to sprinkle in a little “fear” of losing you from time to time. By no means should you do anything excessive, just maybe be really, really subtle about how you don’t intend on being around in a couple of years if marriage isn’t the in the picture.You could even talk about how some imaginary friend of yours feels that way. He’ll subconsciously draw a connection that if your friend feels that way, then maybe you do too.
Play Up a “Team” Mentality
Refer to both of you as “we” or “us” a lot. Even if it’s saying something generic as “yea we’re pretty awesome, aren’t we?” following a cool experience. This gets the ball rolling on cementing you as a franchise player in his mind. Once that is done, the lifetime contract is sure to follow!