Finding a man is like finding anything else: you want to put yourself in situations where your chances of succeeding are higher. Let’s say you’re in the market for a car. Which of these two approaches to finding a car to buy sounds most optimal to you? Biking around town scouring for vehicles with “for sale” signs in their window or visiting a car emporium or website like autotrader.com? The emporium/website approach, right? Duh!
Trying to find a boyfriend, date, husband, or whatever it is you’re in the market for works the same way. The more men you can put yourself in front of, the higher the likelihood you’ll succeed in getting what you want. Although this may seem like common sense, many women, perhaps even yourself included, take horribly sub-optimal approaches to filling this void in their life.
When you fail to put yourself in front of many different potential suitors, you have no choice but to lower your standards. Let’s go back to the car example. If you’re biking around town hoping to find a car to buy, you might see maybe half a dozen cars in one afternoon of searching. Since your options are limited, you kind of have to settle for whatever you can get. However, if you visit autotrader.com, basically every available car in a 100 mile radius is yours for the choosing.
Approach finding a man the same way you’d approach finding a car: look in places where lots of men, and not just any men, single men, are available. Chances are you’ll be able to increase your standards and find yourself in a more fulfilling relationship in the process!
So where’s a place you can expose yourself to large quantities of single men?
The Internet
Internet dating is God’s gift to single people. For a mere $20-$50 a month, you can have access to profiles, pictures, and contact information of dozens, even hundreds of single men in your area. Maybe some of you have been reluctant to pull the trigger on online dating for money reasons. That’s understandable. But look at it this way: a subscription to an online dating membership costs about as much as one or two nights out. In a couple nights out you’ll get to meet a small handful of men, many of whom might be a waste of your time since they’re not available, and you’ll have a hangover the next morning to boot. With online dating, you cut through all of the fat and get right down to the lean meat where hundreds of men are available in your area. Best of all, you’ll only wake up with a headache the next morning if dealing with being messaged by dozens of guys was overwhelming to you!
Speed Dating, Singles Mixers
Second to online dating for best way to meet a man is attending social functions in your area designed at bringing singles together. Speed dating, singles mixers and singles recreational leagues are all great ways to have a little fun and spend some time interacting with available men in your area. Bring a single friend and try it out. Even if you don’t find a man, I’ll bet you have a lot of fun anyway!