Flirting is a fantastic way to get an instant ego boost and there is always the possibility that it can lead to bigger and better things. Catching the eye of that god or goddess, in line at the gas station, not only tells us that we absolutely still got it, but it also makes what we were doing a lot more fun than we thought it was going to be.
During the critical few seconds of making initial contact with someone we are attracted to, we are using mostly body language. In those few seconds, we have very little time to stress over all the details that plaque us when we are out on a date. Our facial expressions are born out of pure reaction to a smile, prolonged glance, or any other positive feedback that is being boomeranged our way. At this point everything happens so fast that we react totally on instinct and the feel good hormones that are flooding our bodies. If the stars are aligned in our favor, we will have a phone number and a date for Friday night by the time we are through.
As we float back to reality we start the instant replay button. Over and over, complete with commentary, every last detail, real and imagined is scrutinized by an over active, but trying to spare us the humiliation, mind. All the worry and doubt start creeping in to every pore we have, even to the point of having us considering deleting the number out of our phone and pretending like none of it ever happened.
After calling every friend we have it is by unanimous decision that the phone call will take place and a date will be accepted, but only after every spa service known to man and the perfect outfit is found. A crash course in telling jokes, and being fun and interesting, also needs to be fit in to the predate schedule. It never once occurs to us that none of that was necessary to get the date. It’s almost like we forget that they have already seen us, and talked to us, and that person, is who they asked out and are expecting to get to know more of.
With all this rearranging and changing going on, it really is no wonder that, what seemed like a promising date with potential for more, ends up in first and only date history.
Too often people go on dates and behave like they are reenacting the dating article in the latest magazine they read. They laugh at things they don’t really think are funny and it shows. They talk about things that they really have no passion about and they come off as flat. They make sure to include every flirtatious move that they have ever read about, and it comes off as desperate. These are some of the things that will leave the person that asked them out, wondering how they could have been so wrong about the chemistry potential, they thought they saw.
To really impress someone laugh at what cracks you up, do something that makes you blush, and start a conversation about one of your passions in life without censoring yourself. It may not be your best behavior, but it will be you at your best.