Nobody is perfect. Not you, and not your guy. But still, you wait patiently for the day he will be. Your expectations of him come pretty close to perfection, and you see nothing wrong with that. But he knows that if he were to expect you to be any way other than exactly how you already are, it would be relationship suicide. But it’s okay because usually your flaws are actually what attracts him to you the most anyway. But back to you.
Sometimes your expectations of the guy you’re dating helps with weeding out the ones who are truly living far below their potential, and your standards. But once in a while you will find yourself in a relationship with a guy who is not perfect, but he is so close to it that you find yourself willing to live with his flaws, and even his friend’s flaws . This doesn’t mean that you are not bothered by them, and dream of them vanishing. But he makes you forget them on a regular basis.
This guy is a keeper. That is, he is a keeper, if the great things about him will always make up for the areas that he falls short. This kind of relationship negotiation should not be done in a hurry. There should be a period of time, usually no less than one to two years, that you really put yourself in situations that will give you the opportunity to have intimate closeness to your guys flaws.
No good comes from being in denial of the things about him that bother you. And it certainly doesn’t serve you to give him so much grief over his imperfections that he goes out of his way to hide them from you. All that will do is give you a false sense of what he is really about, and this will come back to bite you hard.
It is equally pointless to dwell on the things that you would change about him. If the great things about him have your mind wandering away from everything else, let it. This just means that his good qualities outweigh his undesirable quirks. The only time this would not apply is if his bad qualities could end up hurting you or somebody else. But usually, no matter how charming he is, you would always be bothered by the black cloud that would hang over your head when you thought about him if he were truly a bad person.
So go ahead and take stock of all the important character traits, personality quirks, and specific habits that you love, and that you hate about your guy. If you still know that you would not be as happy without him, as you are with him, and you feel like you would miss his irritating self, as much as his sexy self, keep him. And remember, nobody’s perfect, but if he could be, he probably would be, just to make you happy. And that is about as perfect as it gets.