Every person on the face of the planet has days that make them feel like hiding out in some dark forgotten cave. It doesn’t take much to get this mojo stealing, ball rolling. A bad hair day, being cut off on the way to work, or simply just waking up on the wrong side of the bed, are only a few of the things that can make you feel a little off for the entire day.
An occasional bad day happens to all of us. These unavoidable blips that happen to us all say nothing about your personality, or even your general disposition. But if the blip is more like an everyday occurrence that affects your relationships, job, or social life, it’s time to find out what’s eating you.
If you notice that you are constantly feeling like the odd man out, or just generally like the people you know, don’t like you, there may be something more to it than you just being paranoid. What may be wrong is that you have a chip on your shoulder and it is causing you to behave on the defensive, maybe without you even knowing you are.
It’s not always what you say, or just how you say it. It’s how you look when you say it, and what you don’t say as well, that can make other people feel put off or uncomfortable around you. You can even come off as being stuck up or hard to get along with. If you do not change the way you are coming across to others, you run the risk of ruining every relationship you try to have.
It’s not always easy to know that you even have this going on. Having a chip on your shoulder can make you look like you are being defensive or simply introverted. Figuring out why you never feel quite content in your life can be difficult. Unless you spend a lot of time thinking about your past and what could have happened to make you feel isolated and different than other people, you may never know.
What’s most important is what you can do to change it around and start feeling like you belong. This takes strength and courage. At first it will be hard to ignore that little voice that tells you that people are talking about you in a disapproving way, or judging you. You will also have to overcome the desire to push people away every time you feel yourself getting close to them, or trusting them. But with practice and determination your center will shift, and instead of always looking over your shoulder, you’ll find yourself looking straight ahead; right into your future.