You are smart, beautiful, and are simply irresistible. But you are missing something important that takes the shine off of all of your great qualities and leaves a dull residue that is not so irresistible. What you are missing is the control over yourself, and your life, that you used to take so much pride in.
You are not the victim of theft, nobody took your control against your will; you gave it away. It was never your intention to let somebody else dictate everything you do, what you wear, and when you experience happiness and pleasure. Now looking back, you are amazed at how you gave it all away, piece by piece, without ever being completely aware of what you were doing. As a matter of fact, you considered what you were doing, an unselfish, and beautiful way to strengthen your relationship. The relationship you had with your partner that had been a huge source of pleasure and happiness for you. One that you hoped would last a very long time.
Giving up control of your life to another person is not a way to show love or devotion. And the person, who wants to take control over you in every way, will usually not come out and ask you for it. If you start to suspect that things are not feeling right and ask them about it, they will probably defensively deny it.
But whether or not a person admits to it or not, they cannot do it without your cooperation. At first you may not even realize that you are giving it all away. A person who is good at manipulation will be able to make you believe that it’s your idea. They will use the punishment and reward variety of mind games to cause you to give up your will, for theirs.
The manipulation usually starts after a sense of trust has been established, and it will start out very subtly. The rewards usually come first, because every master of manipulation knows that you can attract more bees with honey. They will be patient and wait for you to do something that you know they want you to do. It’s usually something that you may not have planned to do, or ever wanted to do. Either they will subtly suggest you do it, or just make their desire for you to do it, obvious. Once you have done whatever it is that they want they will shower you with affection and other overwhelming positive reinforcements.
As time goes on and you begin to notice a definite connection to doing what your partner wants you to do, and getting all the love and attention you can handle, you realize that most of what you do centers on making them happy.
Soon you also begin to realize that when you do not act in the way that is expected of you, they withdraw their affection, and withhold it from you, until you give them what they want. I f allow this to go on, you will find yourself being controlled even when you and your partner are away from each other. Everything you do will, in some way, is motivated by them. Even things you do to get back at them, or prove something to them, will still be all about them. At this point you have officially handed over your life to somebody else.
Once you take back your control again, you will be shocked at how much you missed out on, and will probably be a lot more careful next time.