Sometimes the most attractive thing about a person is how into you they are. When someone wants you it shows in everything they say and do. The effect this kind of intensity has on your ego literally makes you understand what it feels like to be swept off your feet. There isn’t really much time to think about where the relationship is going or how incredibly fast it’s getting there. You are just feeling good and as far as you are concerned it can go anywhere it wants as long as it keeps feeling like this.
After being swept off your feet you forget what it feels like to walk on solid ground, that is until you come crashing down off the pedestal that you were perched on, hey it wasn’t your idea to be up there, but you didn’t fight it either… even if it did feel too good to be true. And you already know that when it feels too good to be true it usually is. You can tell when something is sincerely great because there are no lingering feelings of doubt or worry attached to them.
There isn’t always a fall off the pedestal sometimes it’s more like a slow climb to the bottom, step by step, as you start realizing that the compliments are starting to get twisted and feel more like accusations. It isn’t a good sign when you start feeling like you have to defend yourself and your honor against the person who is supposed to love you. A lot of times flattery is just a way for an insecure person to find an opening they can slip through to get information. They also think that if they accuse you of enough things that you will eventually crack and tell them the real truth. If you tell them anything other than what they already believe, they will think you are lying even if they don’t come out and say it.
Little by little all the flattery of the early days starts to be revealed for what it really is. The person who was inflating your ego was doing it more for themselves than they were doing it for you. This is because very insecure people automatically see everything as being out of their reach and above and beyond them. When they find themselves in a position to possibly have a relationship they will overcompensate for what they feel they lack by making the other person feel so good by just being around them that they don’t want to be anyplace else. Once the insecure person feels they have become important to the other persons self worth they start letting their insecurity get the better of them making them behave jealous and possessive, and even disrespectful.
This complete reversal in behavior is so shocking at first that it takes a while to sink in. There may be moments of doubt that make it impossible to believe that you could have been that wrong in your estimation of this person’s character. Believe it or not, it will most likely just get worse if you stay with them, eventually making you feel insecure and like you always have something to prove.