Men are the proud owners of the banner statement that touts their increase in attractiveness with age, as being their biggest advantage over women. But is really true, or is just a jab at the way a woman’s aging is viewed? Despite what a lot of people believe, men and woman were not put here to compete with each other, but to complement each other.
Getting older hardly conjures up images of vitality and allure, but this doesn’t make us want these things any less. It is entirely possible for people setting out to enjoy the second part of their life to strive to stay, or even become, attractive and desirable. In some ways it may not come as effortlessly as it once did, but in some ways it is easier.
How we treated our minds and bodies during our youth will be a big determining factor of what we will have to work with once we hit middle age. If we started out being health conscious it will be easier to maintain that lifestyle and there will not be as many bad habits to break, with a more solid foundation to rely on in later years. If we crashed through our younger years like we were invincible, we will likely have a little work ahead of us. This is true for men and women alike. The difference is that men are made more ruggedly made than women are, and are expected to be that way all their lives. Women are admired for their soft sweetness from the time they are born, but living has a habit of changing those things somewhat. So while men grow up, and old just becoming more of what they always were; women change. And this change is sometimes perceived as negative.
Luckily, there is more to a person than what they look like, and how a person thinks and acts can impact their looks very dramatically. Some men subscribe to the belief that they automatically get better with age, no matter what. This way of thinking can and does work against some men, and makes them less appealing as they get older.
Once a man has some life and relationship experience under his belt, he may walk around with an attitude of cockiness or arrogance. This can be mistaken for confidence by some, but an arrogant man is the polar opposite of confident.
Confidence in any person is attractive and ups that person’s appeal a hundred fold. But you can’t fake it, and when you try it leaves the person looking desperate and cynical. An older man may have all the bells and whistles of success, but if he has not kept growing emotionally he is more aware of it than anybody else.
Men experience the same anxiety about getting older as women do, but they are not always as graceful about it as women are. A man who remains modestly aware of his imperfections as well as his strengths he can be sure he will get better with age just like a fine wine; instead of a bunch of sour grapes.