Your new man is everything you ever wanted in a man. He is romantic, thoughtful, sexy, affectionate, ambitious, goal orientated, and is good in bed. He seems like the perfect guy. You always knew your day would come and it finally has. All you can do is look back on all those years of kissing frogs and gloat because you had the patience that has finally paid off.
You should never underestimate the power of positive thinking in any situation, and that includes finding your perfect mate. The only problem with positive thinking when it comes to dating is that it can turn into a case of seeing only what we want to see, even when it really isn’t there. There are no perfect people which means there are no perfect men or women to be found, but there are people who are perfect for each other. This should always be the goal when deciding whether or not to go out with somebody. If we try and stick to going out with people who are interested in the same things we are and have the same basic life beliefs as we do, chances are very good that we will have, at the very least, made a good friend, and best case scenario, a love connection.
Going out with people who are our type feels comfortable and safe so that is the first thing we gravitate towards when we flirt and when we respond to people who flirt with us. When there is at least one thing about a man that makes us feel comfortable enough to be around him, that one thing is often enough for us to grab for those rose colored glasses and hold on to them for dear life. Sometimes it is so obvious that the man we have found is not anything like we think he is but we are the last ones to see it. We resist seeing it. Our friends, co-workers, and family will try to point these things out about our guy, but we will just brush it off as them not knowing him like we do. Somewhere deep inside of us we can feel what they are saying is true, but we choose to live like it’s not all the way up until we simply cannot any longer.
We stop living our dream when our romantic boyfriend stops doing romantic things. He usually stops because he was just doing the romantic things he knew we wanted, and not because he is romantic. The thoughtful man we fell for starts thinking about everything but us. This is not because we changed, but because he had only been thinking of himself in the first place. Our goal orientated honey hasn’t lost his drive; he just achieved his prize and is on to the next challenge.
The only sure way to know if what we have is the real deal is to let it stand the test of time. Anybody can be anything for a little while, but nobody can be what they are not for very long. There were never truer words to love by. But none of this means we need to stop dreaming, we just need to know what is a dream and what is reality.