Uncertainty is an uncomfortable state to be in, depending on the situation it can be a good kind of uncomfortable or a bad one. The good one is defined by there being only good possible options or outcomes. It will still be a surprise but no matter what it, will be a nice surprise. The bad one is defined by there being more than one possible outcome and they are not all good.
Optimists will not be as uncomfortable with uncertainty as pessimists, but most people will agree that they would rather know what they are dealing with than not know what to expect. Knowing what we are dealing with helps us to accept certain facts and frees us to explore other options. It also helps us to see a situation more clearly for what it is and not have unrealistic expectations of it or ourselves.
Taking away uncertainty and the discomfort that goes with it is a good reason to define the romantic relationship you are in. People are being conditioned to be afraid to ask the questions that will help them know exactly where they stand with the person they are seeing. It is being instilled in us to feel that asking too many questions or even the wrong questions will scare people away from us. This fear of possibly blowing a chance to be in a good relationship can be a good enough reason to live with all the questions brewing inside of us.
Frequently the unanswered questions are the cause of the breakdown in the relationship for several reasons. One of the primary reasons is the lack of trust this encourages within the relationship’s foundation. Even if there is no reason for one person to think that their partner cannot be approached, if they continue to allow themselves to take that view of them their trust in them will be compromised.
This lack of trust will spill over into behaviors that border on insecurity. Without knowing if you are actually in a committed relationship or not, feelings of insecurity and jealousy run rampant and cloud the meaning of every word and action. It is also very easy to fall into feeling disrespected and unappreciated if you are consistently doing the things that show loyalty and love to somebody who has yet to commit to being loyal to you.
Asking the questions that need to be asked will free you and your mind to go in the direction of happier and more secure feelings. It is also important to remember that if you do find yourself being rejected or avoided because you try to establish open and clear lines of communication, you may getting the most important answer you could ever receive on that person’s character, without even asking a thing.