One some point in most relationships, one or both, people find themselves silently wondering if they should end the relationship, or let whatever is making them unhappy, slide. For some relationships, this is an almost daily question. For others, this question may only pop into their heads when something major happens in the relationship that shakes it to the core.
In the case of new relationships, for this thought to cross anybody’s mind, means trouble. The beginning of a new relationship is usually one of the most blissful times. But when there are things that come up, that have either person questioning whether they should continue with it or not, the answer is usually, not. That question early on, is usually more a red flag, than it is a random normal doubt.
In a well established relationship, for the person who is wondering, there is usually something that has changed or happened to spark the shadow of doubt. Once the question presents itself, it will usually not go away, until there has been some kind of new information, or understanding of what caused the doubt in the first place.
Sometimes what causes a person to wonder if they should end their relationship or not, has to do with a situation that has been around from the beginning of the relationship, but was never resolved, with the hope that it would just go away, or that somehow it would all work itself out.
Questions like this can be nothing more than cold feet, or early commitment fear, and if that is where it’s coming from, they will usually resolve themselves without too much thought.
When it is coming from a deeper doubt about a character trait in the other person, or something they have done to be a possible deal breaker, it can end up causing a life changing turn of events for the people involved.
Knowing the difference between what we should take serious, and the things that we should just let go, is just a matter of being completely clear about where the doubts are really coming from.
Nobody is perfect but if you are in a relationship with somebody who really tries to make you happy and has your best interest at heart, whatever they have to done to make you rethink your commitment, was probably unintentional, and they have earned a little wiggle room. However, if they have done something that they knew would hurt you, but still decided to go forward with it, you should take it very serious and cut them lose; at least until you are very sure it won’t happen again.