This is where the fun begins. Choosing your wedding party is like choosing your team members at a ball game. You try hard not to hurt anyone’s feelings but sometimes, to get the players that you want, it may be inevitable. It comes down to you choosing who you want and the people that make you happy to see at your side on your wedding day.
Looking past the possible hurt feelings, you move onward. The process of choosing your wedding party needs to begin right away. This little clique will be your rescue policy from day one. So choose wisely, not by feelings of obligation.
Your attendants become a tight-knit group that will usually be responsible for the bachelorette/bachelor parties, the bridal shower is usually thrown by the Maid of Honor, the bridesmaids will help the bride with the accessories, and some couples allow the attendants to help choose their own attire.
The general layout includes the Maid of Honor, the bridesmaids, the Best Man, the groomsmen, the flower girl, and the ring bearer. Depending on the size of your guest lists the number of attendants can be decided on accordingly, but this is never set in stone, it is only a traditional set-up. According to tradition the ideal way to plan your numbers is by assigning one pair of attendants to every thirty five through fifty guests who R.S.V.P. . So if you are planning a small wedding having only a maid of honor and best man are appropriate. Just remember that even though the typical wedding has up to six pairs of attendants that there is no set quota and any desired amount is acceptable for your unique demands.
Keep the arrangements within your budget. It is traditional to purchase a nice gift for each person in your wedding party and this can add up. Also, if each bridesmaid will be holding a bouquet then the expense goes up further. As long as you can come to an agreement on the cost of the attire rentals and shoe costs then the expense will dwell mainly on those two items.
Once you choose your party begin by getting all of them together for a cook out or a nice dinner. This will give you the time you need to discuss any scheduling conflicts, minor details, and any requirements that the attendants may need to address. As well as discussing the wedding and the cost of attire to clear your mind.