After being physically intimate with someone or having a good session of sex with someone we want to continue to see, we start getting this weird kind of internal nudge that is hard to identify at first. Then it hits us and we realize that we don’t want this person to give to anybody else what they just gave to us, we want them to be ours, and we definitely do not want to share.
If after one of the best nights, or mornings of your sexual life you find yourself feeling this way, it is highly advisable that you do not declare it to the other person. If you do and get a good reaction, you can be sure that they were flattered by the sentiment at that moment, but once their hormone levels returned to normal, they got chills on the back of their neck, and they weren’t the good kind of chills either.
You are not alone in the way you are feeling, it can happen to the best of us after an especially sexy sweet encounter. You are not the only person in history to feel a sense of wild possessiveness towards someone you are, most definitely, infatuated with. You have probably been the object of that very same feeling for somebody else more than once and did not even know it. What matters is that you can grab hold of yourself, at least to some extent, and put your feelings in perspective.
Your rational side realizes that there is really no way to own somebody, well at least you haven’t figured out a way yet. And until you do, you will have to play by the same rules everybody else plays by. That doesn’t mean that you can’t or won’t immediately start looking for ways to make them want to belong to you, and that is absolutely advisable.
Back to putting your feelings in perspective, you could try telling yourself that this too shall pass, well in about a year, maybe a year and half. That’s about how long it takes for infatuation to wear off. Maybe it’s better not to focus on the time thing for now. You can focus on how this person managed to show you things that nobody else has and that they must belong to you, but that might end up being counterproductive to the task at hand.
The bottom line is that this person cannot belong to you. They are a separate individual with the free will to leave your life whenever they decided it’s time. The bright side is that there is a very good chance that this person will not want to leave, an incredible person like you because they would like to get to know you better. It is highly possible that they were as excited about your chemistry as you were, and they are even more curious about you now, especially since you seemed so into them, but were confident enough to let them go back out into the world, with just a satisfied smile on your face.