The nice guys always finish last, at least that’s the rumor going around. Rumors may not always be nice, but sometimes they are true. In the case of the nice guy and where he finishes in the dating pool, it is true, and it’s false.
Being that there is more than one kind of nice guy, it can go either way. The nice guy who is genuine and sincere in his intentions and his actions will usually be taken seriously by the women he is interested in. He will also be treated with respect, as long as he is also intelligent and insightful. It’s a little bit of a challenge for a woman to respect a man who does not command respect. He doesn’t have to go about it in an aggressive and demanding sort of way. But he does have to expect a certain level of respect to get it.
The nice guy who is so desperate for validation and acceptance that he is willing to compromise his self in any way he has to just to get it, is more unattractive, than he could, in his wildest dreams, ever imagine. The way this type of nice guy behaves leaves a lot of room for doubt about whether he is even really a nice guy. Since everything he does is motivated by fulfilling his own needs and desires, he is actually pretty selfish. He is just willing to sacrifice one part of himself to satisfy another side. This nice guy is usually made fun of and taken advantage of by the women he tries to impress.
The too nice guy is a little harder to identify at first, and because of this, he sometimes gets lucky and finds a woman who falls for him before she realizes what she’s gotten herself into. This occasional lucky break is just the thing that keeps this guy happy and thinking that he has really got it going on. What he really has is a case of lack of identity. He acts like nothing bothers him and he can get along with anybody and everybody. What he really does is deny how he really feels until he completely loses touch with how he feels. After doing this for long enough, he isn’t as nice as he would like people to believe. If all of his pent up frustration ever has the chance to catch up with him, he will go off like a time bomb.
There is only one genuine nice guy, and being nice is only one of the things he can be. He is not a nice guy, but a guy who is nice. He is sincere, considerate, respectful, and caring. When these are his natural ways of being, they don’t get in the way, or turn up missing when you need them. And he isn’t afraid to be himself, even when he isn’t feeling so nice. Probably the best thing about a nice guy is how nice it feels to have him around. And that’s a feeling that you can’t get enough of, and a guy you can’t get enough of.