You have been with your partner for a while now, but it still amazes you that you two are still together. When you met, you never expected it to last this long. As a matter of fact, you never even intended for it to become what it is today; a relationship. When you look back on it, you’re a little bit astonished by the fact that the both of you have been able to sustain the magic that brought you to the place of bliss that you find yourself in today. But as you continue to reflect, you begin to realize that you are, ever so slowly, starting to find your own thoughts about your partner, just a little unconvincing and fake.
This realization is like a cold gallon of water thrown in your face during the sweetest of daydreams. You begin to retrace your mental steps to try and find out exactly where the path started to twist, and think that maybe then; you will be back on your way to that special place where only romantic thoughts of your honey are allowed.
One of the downsides to having an emotional or mental breakthrough is that once you have it, you can’t go back. So as you try with all of your might to get back to your blissful state of ignorance, something tells you that you are going to follow this train of newfound thoughts to wherever they take you.
In just a matter of a few minutes, you have gone from having a boyfriend, one who you have considered keeping around for a while, to being completely confused and uncertain of what you feel about the person you’ve spent so much time with.
Sometimes life changing thoughts and feelings that seem to come out of nowhere are really just a manifestation of our thoughts that have been simmering in us for quite a while. We are never completely oblivious to all the behind the scenes workings of our subconscious, but a lot of the time we can work around changes that are in progress until they are complete and ready for us to act on.
Realizing that your relationship has become comfortable, and keeps you from being bored, but is no longer real love, may be shocking at first; and your first instinct may be to do something drastic. It’s a better idea to give yourself a little time to get clear about what you really want to do. On some level you may still care for the person you were once so much in love with, but caring about someone, and being in love with them, are two very different things.
The one thing that you can count on is now that you know your feelings are not what they once were; your partner will soon be able to tell as well. So be prepared for everything to change, but don’t resist it because, in this case, the change will be for the better.