From the time we are kids we are told that there are rules that we need to follow. Everything has rules that go with it. There are even rules to follow when we are playing. As children we don’t ask what will happen if we break those rules. We are curious, but we don’t ask, we don’t have to because after we are told the rules we are told the consequences of breaking them. It’s like the rules and consequences go hand in hand just like best friends.
Even with the fear of our parents and teachers put into our young hearts, we still can’t help wanting to break the rules every chance we get. Most of the time we don’t dare go too much further than testing the limits of those things that we are told not to do.
As we get a little older it becomes harder to do exactly as we are told. We are bigger, smarter, and basically have the desire do things our own way. We want to know who made up these rules anyway, and we especially want to know who died and made them the boss of us. Besides, for all we know, we may have a much better way of doing things that should at least be tried.
As our maturity level grows we again learn to accept that some things just have rules attached to them and there are consequences to be had by not following them, and we also gain an insight into the understanding of the meaning of regret. Regret is a great incentive to keep temptation at bay, and it keeps us aware of the social graces we have learned along the way.
Just when we think we have a pretty good handle on the formalities of life we find out that there are new rules to follow in the bedroom, the sex rules. With so many different types of sexual relationships rules are made up so nobody gets confused. These rules are really just manners that show we know what we are doing.
To be considered well mannered in the bedroom remember these simple rules: Do not assume that you are spending the night, wait to be asked or you may find out later that the person you were just with was counting the seconds until you left. Never take the initiative to make yourself at home, you are at somebody else’s home and they may not like it. Do not pillage through things you see lying around, you will appear to be nosy, and nosy isn’t sexy. Before trying any new move or toy make sure the other person agrees with it, this one speaks for itself. Pay attention to what is happening in the moment, try not to channel surf or get caught up in playing with the radio it will definitely cool things off. Put your phone on vibrate and don’t make any calls, wait until the person leaves before you start trying to give a detailed report about how it went. As with anything else mind your manners and play by the rules and chances are you will be asked back.